Friday, December 31, 2010

100 New Year Resolutions for 2011

Following  100 resolutions I recieved in mail from one Mr Neelkantan. His compilation I want to share with all. Spend little time to brows, if  even a few could be adopted that would make the like wonderful in the new year.
1. Send flowers to near & dear ones

2. Never look back
3. Don't brood, keep the head high
4. watch news channels over soaps
5. buy and read books
6. Chill! Cool your heels
7. Give a damn to foes
8. snore less (if you can help it)
9. Give back, when required
10. Spend time with the pet
11. Network more, make friends
12. Pray to the Almighty
13. Express admiration for others
14. Clean the bedroom, at least weekly
15. Write and continue writing diary
16. Celebrate without reasons
17. Admit your faults
18. Less use of credit card
19. Enjoy nature, rains
20. Listen to music regularly
21. Bake a cake, once in a while
22. Visit aged relatives
23. No lending money
24. Be yourself
25. Cultivate a hobby
26. Read and share jokes
27. Take trips
28. Gift yourself
29. Help mom/wife in household choir
30. Listen to Dad's advice in investment
31. Connect to old friends
32. Beg pardon.. after burping
33. Flush, after hitting the loo
34. Save, save and save with a target
35. Clean up your own mess
36. Brush teeth twice
37. Bathe daily
38. Stop doubting the maid
39. Eat healthy, say no to junk food
40. Cook a meal, as frequently as possible
41. Drink more.....WATER
42. Go for an eye checkup
43. Don't bring work to home
44. Listen to parents
45. Say no to jealousy
46. Discuss ideas and concepts, not people
47. Picnic
48. No borrowing clothes
49. Express your love
50. Show when you care
51. Have a positive bent of mind
52. Don't pretend
53. Think beyond the given conditions and the present
54. Feel good
55. Smile more often
56. Compliment liberally and truthfully
57. Dutch... with friends
58. Take morning walks, long walks
59. Use the fork and spoon, while eating
60. Ignore hygiene mania
61. Respond to all emails
62. Write snail mail
63. Chat with common sense and honesty
64. Count calorie intake
65. Do something about being overweight
66. Start the day with newspapers
67. Respect secrets & keep them
68. Trust fellow human beings
69. Listen to your heart
70. Believe in miracles
71. Want less, accept more
72. Share your dreams
73. Thank your stars..more often
74. No self praise
75. Thank God more often
76. Treat dandruffs, get to a dermatologist
77. Change socks daily
78. Fold clothes before putting them in the cupboard
79. Give space, mental and physical, to others
80. Participate in home choirs
81. Donate to charity organizations
82. Give advice only when it is asked for, and when it is a life and death question
83. Surf less, meet people more
84. Use the dressing mirror less
85. Accept your flaws
86. Spend at least one Sunday every month purely at home
87. Wear an attitude, not pride
88. More truth..less lies
89. Sleep with mouth closed
90. Work hard
91. Talk more..sms less
92. Don't curse the neighbor
93. Find a new heartthrob
94. Forget the ex flames
95. Dare to dream
96. Gift yourself at times
97. Eat with mouth closed
98. Always carry a clean hanky
99. Don't litter
100. Not to break any of the 99 resolutions taken above

I hope you have enjoyed these pretty little New Year trivia's. New year is simply the perfect time to make resolutions and make for a fun-filled day. Take in the coming year with open arms.

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Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Where the Peace is ?

The professionals get strained because of the push and pulls of the work environment. If any body is asked what is he or she looking for. The reply would be .. peace.  Where can we find peace?  When I asked this question to one of my friends - Sunil Tailor in Surat, he  mailed me following anecdote.
There once was a king who offered a prize to the artist who would paint the best picture of peace. Many artists tried. The king looked at all the pictures. But there were only two he really liked, and he had to choose between them.

One picture was of a calm lake. The lake was a perfect mirror for peacefully towering mountains all around it. Overhead was a blue sky with fluffy white clouds. All who saw this picture thought that it was a perfect picture of peace.

The other picture had mountains, too. But these were rugged and bare. Above was an angry sky, from which rain fell and in which lightning played. Down the side of the mountain tumbled a foaming waterfall. This did not look peaceful at all. But when the king looked closely, he saw behind the waterfall a tiny bush growing in a crack in the rock. In the bush a mother bird had built her nest. There, in the midst of the rush of angry water, sat the mother bird on the nest - in perfect peace.

Which picture do you think won the prize? The king chose the second picture. Do you know why?

"Because," explained the king, "peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work. Peace means to be in the midst of all those things and still be calm in your heart. That is the real meaning of peace."

Lord Krishna says in the Bhagavad-gita (5.10):

One who then beyond contamination by sinful reactions, exactly as the lotus leaf, though remaining in the water, is not wet.

Be the bird and make a nest to work peacefully surrounded by noise of the work environment and live peacefully.

Friday, October 8, 2010

Person hindering YOUR growth is dead!

One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big advice on the door on which it was written:

“Yesterday the person who has been hindering your growth in this company passed away. We invite you to join the funeral”.

In the beginning, they all got sad for the death of one of their colleagues, but after a while they started getting curious to know who was that man who hindered the growth of his colleagues and the company itself.

The excitement in the gym was such that security agents were ordered to control the crowd within the room. The more people reached the coffin, the more the excitement heated up.

Everyone thought: “Who is this guy who was hindering my progress? Well, at least he died!”

One by one the thrilled employees got closer to the coffin, and when they looked inside it they suddenly became speechless. They stood nearby the coffin, shocked and in silence, as if someone had touched the deepest part of their soul.

There was a mirror inside the coffin: everyone who looked inside it could see himself. There was also a sign next to the mirror that said: “There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your growth: IT IS YOU”.

Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends change, when your centre changes.

Your life changes when YOU change, when YOU go beyond your limiting beliefs.

Friday, September 24, 2010


Randy Pausch 47 yrs old, A computer Sc. lecturer from Mellon Universityhe died of pancreatic cancer in 2008, but wrote a book The last lecture before then, one of the bestsellers in 2007. What a legacy to leave behind …

In a letter to his wife Jai and his children, Dylan, Logan , and Chloe, he wrote this beautiful " guide to a better life " for his wife and children to follow.

May you be blessed by his insight listed in the following points to improve your life.


1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
3. Don't over do; keep your limits
4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does
5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.

9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.

Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

13. Smile and laugh more
14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.


15. Call your family often
16. Each day give something good to others
17. Forgive everyone for everything
18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of six.
19. Try to make at least three people smile each day
20. What other people think of you is none of your business
21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.

22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
23. GOD heals everything
24. Do the right things
25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
27. The best is yet to come
28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.

While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with,
people you play with, people you work with and people you live with.
Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you.

Monday, September 13, 2010

The story of an Ant & a Grasshopper

Following Anecdote I received in mail from one of my friend Sunil Tailor.  Its a beautiful satire on Indian politics, NGOs  and social system.
Old Story which our parents told us to undertstand the imporatnce of hard work and planning for future goes as:

The Ant works hard in the withering heat all summer building its house and laying up supplies for the winter. The Grasshopper thinks the Ant is a fool and laughs dances plays the summer away. Come winter, the Ant is warm and well fed. The Grasshopper has no food or shelter so he dies out in the cold.

New Indian Version:
The Ant works hard in the withering heat all summer building its house and laying up supplies for the winter. The Grasshopper thinks the Ant's a fool and laughs dances plays the summer away.
Come winter, the shivering Grasshopper calls a press conference and demands to know why the Ant should be allowed to be warm and well fed while others are cold and starving.
Grass Hoppers
NDTV, BBC, CNN show up to provide pictures of the shivering Grasshopper next to a video of the Ant in his comfortable home with a table filled with food.
The World is stunned by the sharp contrast. How can this be that this poor Grasshopper is allowed to suffer so?

Famous socualist writer Arundhati Roy stages a demonstration in front of the Ant's house.
Medha Patkar, who got fame for opposing thr Narmada Dam construction goes on a fast along with other Grasshoppers demanding that Grasshoppers be relocated to warmer climates during winter .
Mayawati states this as 'injustice' done on Minorities.
Amnesty International and Koffi Annan, the General Secretary of UN criticize the Indian Government for not upholding the fundamental rights of the Grasshopper.
The Internet is flooded with online petitions seeking support to the Grasshopper (many promising Heaven & Everlasting Peace for prompt support as against the wrath of God for non-compliance) .
Opposition MPs stage a walkout. Left parties call for 'Bengal Bandh' in West Bengal and Kerala demanding a Judicial Enquiry.
CPM in Kerala immediately passes a law preventing Ants from working hard in the heat so as to bring about equality of poverty among Ants and Grasshoppers.
Former Railway Minister Lalu Prasad demands to allocate one free coach to Grasshoppers on all Indian Railway Trains, aptly named as the 'Grasshopper Rath'.
Finally, the Judicial Committee drafts the 'Prevention of Terrorism Against Grasshoppers Act'[POTAGA] , with effect from the beginning of the winter..
HRD minsiter Kapil Sibbal  declares 'Special Reservation' for Grasshoppers in Educational Institutions in Government Services.
The Ant is fined for failing to comply with POTAGA and having nothing left to pay his retroactive taxes, it's home is confiscated by the Government and handed over to the Grasshopper in a ceremony covered by NDTV, BBC, CNN.
Arundhati Roy calls it 'A Triumph of Justice'.

Lalu calls it 'Socialistic Justice'.

CPM calls it the 'Revolutionary Resurgence of the Downtrodden'

Koffi Annan, the UN General Secretary  invites the Grasshopper to address the UN General Assembly.

Many years later...

The Ant has since migrated to the US and set up a multi-billion dollar company in Silicon Valley , 100s of Grasshoppers still die of starvation despite reservation somewhere in India ,
As a result of losing lot of hard working Ants and feeding the grasshoppers, India is still a developing country...!!

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Tuesday, July 27, 2010


What is the most important trait for a manger in discharging its duty efficiently? The management experts and the psychologists have been trying to answer this question. In the last century two important quotients were proposed – namely IQ and EQ. One was to access the analytical capability and the other was the measure of behaviour.

Significant work was done on IQ analysis and the tools to measure the same in the first half of the century. Many tests were available by 70s. It had become imperative and highest degree of weightage was given to this single quotient in promoting potential and budding managers in the hierarchy. But higher IQ ranking alone did not give all successful managers to the business. So, the scientists started analysing other traits. Nearing the end of the 20th century a new dimension – Emotional Quotient, became the talk of HR circles.

It was in 1995 when Daniel Goleman published a book on emotional intelligence, since then EQ has been in debate. More than 100 different types of tests so far have been developed to measure EQ of which only 3 or 4 qualify the scientific approach. So lots of work needs to be done on EQ.

Emotional maturity is more important than IQ for a manager to repeat in the performance consistently. One of the study reveals that behind the success of a manager IQ contributes 10% and 30% contribution is of EQ taking total to 40% of mental maturity. The study was carried out on 450 managers of Massachusetts state of USA.

To understand emotional maturity, one should understand the various feelings – emotions arising in human mind. They are – anger, hatred, liking, disliking, depression, happiness, sorrow, humanity, hope, ego, etc. A mature mind needs to identify what type of feelings are getting generated in its own sphere and control it before they are expressed or visible to the others.

Similarly, this is also important to classify the feelings of others and channelise them to the positive vibes. An eye for an eye might be the dictum of a brigadier in army but not in business. Anger if responded with anger would lead only in breaking away the paths – Envy with envy pulls down both the opponents. So, wisdom is in forgive the enemy.

This is the more important dimension than IQ or EQ. The feeling of envy is the single most factor ruining the organisation. A person with high degree Envy Quotient is the one who gets disturbed by the slightest happiness of others. They do not tolerate if others are appreciated in the team. These are the people who are sadistic in nature. Their energy goes more pulling others down. They fail to collaborate with the team mates.

EnQ (Envy Quotient) is the one which has destructive power, where as others two are neutral to positive. The range of EnQ would range from negative infinity to the positive infinity. Therefore, it becomes more important to evaluate a manger’s aptitude on EnQ first and then IQ or EQ.

A group which has net sum of EnQ zero or up will always perform better even with less of IQ then the group with best of IQ but EnQ sum in reds. Remember EQ and EnQ are totally different.

Friday, June 18, 2010

Where to Put the Efforts.

It was a weekend afternoon and all seniors members of the apex management had gathered to listen the status of most ambitious project the conference room Project leader Samik informed the gathering that using a phrase from the popular film “ Aal is Well” team is delivering the result and moving in the right direction.

But President Mr Dutta was not comfortable. He interrupted, “Tell me much will it over stretch from schedule.”

Smile from Samik’s face was gone. In a defending tone he said, ”Not much may be two more months and we will be through.”

“This is enough last review meeting you demanded extra man power which immediately management agreed to meet the deadline. With five additional engineers the delay has slipped further from 45 days to two months. Were all sleeping this whole fortnight?” Datta asked screamingly.

These are common scenario happening at most of the projects. The first mistake project management does is that in the beginning not enough thrust is given assuming that there is enough time. Follow the Parkinson’s law which states that “Work expands to fill the time available.”

The team remains busy irrespective of the work load and the time available. If the work is sufficient for a day and the team is given three days then first two days are simply wasted in non productive analysis or experimentation.

When the project looks getting delayed team leader starts complaining either the shortage of man power or the skills. But putting extra man power near completion of the project follows Brook’s Law –“ Putting more people on late job makes it later.”

The new team member would eat up the productive time of others to understand the situation. More time in getting aligned with the team. As far as possible avoid adding unknown hand A person who has been part of review team may help in such a situation if inducted with the main stream to increase the strength since it won’t eat up other’s valuable efforts.

The best strategy is to break the project into smaller fragments and insist to complete each portion in time from the beginning. This overcomes many problems. Boehm’s finding is that larger projects tended to be less productive than the smaller ones because they needed more efforts for management and co-ordination. This strategy is best to cut the cost of efforts since they deliver the maximum output.

To understand this try to follow why India and Pakistan have lost their glory in field hockey? The players of these countries are masters of dribbling. They try to retain the ball with them for the maximum length of the field. The opponents get more chance to interrupt and take away the ball. The teams from Europe and Australia pass the ball quickly to other team mates giving less time to think to the opponents

The same rule applies for the successful execution of the larger projects. Complete your portion of the task at earliest and pass to the next level. You take up your new position. This refreshes the team also and delivers the results. Put some extra efforts to plan the efforts of the team and guide them to complete the assignment effortlessly.

Thursday, January 7, 2010


The best way to improve in the new year is to follow one of the most motivating personality – Robin Sharma. He is an is an author of several internationally published books, and an expert on leadership and personality development. Here goes the list of do’s this year.

1. Remember that leadership isn't about your position. It's about your influence.

2. Get fit like a pro athlete.

3. Lift people up versus tearing people down.

4. Protect your good name. An impeccable reputation takes a lifetime to build. And 60 seconds to lose.

5. Surround yourself with positive, ethical people who are committed to excellence.

6. Remember that even a 1% daily innovation rate amounts to at least a 100% rate of innovation in 100 days.

7. Believe in your dreams (even when others laugh at them).

8. Measure your success, not by your net worth but by your self worth (and how happy you feel).

9. Take an intelligent risk every 24 hours. No try-No Win.

10. Read "Buffett: The Making of an American Capitalist".

11. Watch "Man on Wire".

12. Regardless of your title at work, be a team builder.

13. Remember that business is all about relationships and human connections.

14. Say "please" more.

15. Say "thank you" more.

16. Know your Big 5: the five things that need to happen by the end of this year for you to feel its been your     best year yet.

17. Read your Big 5 every morning while the rest of the world is asleep.

18. Read "As You Think". At least twice this year.

19. Be willing to fail. It's the price of greatness.

20. Focus less on making money and more on creating value.

21. Spend less, save more.

22. Leave everything you touch better than you found it.

23. Be the most positive person in every room you're in.

24. Run your own race.

24. Stay true to your deepest values and best ideals.

25. Write a handwritten thank you note to a customer/friend/loved one every day.

26. When you travel, send love letters to your kids on hotel stationary. In time, they'll have a rich collection to remember your travels by.

27. Read "Atlas Shrugged".

28. Be a problem solver versus a trouble maker.

29. Rather than doing many things at mediocrity do just a few things-but at mastery.

30. Honor your parents.

31. Commit to doing great work-whether anyone notices it or not. It's one of life's best sources of happiness.

32. Give more than you receive (another of the truths of happiness).

33. Have your 1/3/5/10/25 years goals recorded on paper and review them weekly.

34. Be patient. Slow and steady wins the race. The only reason businesses that went from zero to a billion in a year or two get featured in magazines is because 99% of businesses require a lot more time to win.

34. Underpromise and then overdeliver.

35. See part of your job as "a developer of people" (whether you work in the boardroom or the mailroom).

36. Wear your heart on your sleeve. When people see you're real, they'll fall in love with you.

37. Be authentic versus plastic.

38. Read "The Alchemist".

39. Remember that life wants you to win. So get out of your own way.

40. Consider that behind every fear lives your next level of growth (and power).

41. Eat less food.

42. Drink more water.

43. Rest when you need to.

44. Read "SUCCESS" magazine.

45. Write your eulogy and them live your life backwards.

46. Demand the best from yourself.

47. Remember that the more you go to your limits, the more your limits will expand.

48. See everything that happens to you as an opportunity to grow (and therefore, as a precious gift).

49. Be obsessed with learning and self-development.

50. Become comfortable alone (you are the only person you get to be with your whole life).

51. Smile. It's a stunningly effective way to win in business and life.

52. Reflect on the shortness of life.

53. Be bold when it comes to your dreams but gentle with those you love.

54. Remember that success is dangerous because it can kill drive/innovation/passion and going the extra mile. Be successful yet stay hungry.

55. Read "The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin".

56. Be of deep value to this world.

57. Own beautiful things but don't let them own you.

58. Use excellent words.

59. Laugh more.

60. Don't complain, gossip or be negative.

61. Plan as if you'll live forever but live as if you'll die tomorrow.

62. Read this once in fortnight to check if you haven't missed out something

Tuesday, January 5, 2010


In today’s world every body is in hurry. Life has become very fast. People want to grow fast, make money faster. Result of this is that the patience is getting short. Now a days management looks up for a team who can deliver fast results. The manager want to conclude before starting the discussion.

Before analyzing this behaviour let us travel in a train where one old man is sitting with his 25 years old son in the train. Train is about to leave the station. All passengers are settling down their seat.

As train started young man was filled with lot of joy and curiosity. He was sitting on the window side.
He went out one hand and feeling the passing air. He shouted, "Papa see all trees are going behind". Old man smile and admired son feelings.

Beside the young man one couple was sitting and listing all the conversion between father and son. They were little awkward with the attitude of 25 years old man behaving like a small child.

Suddenly young man again shouted, "Papa see the pond and animals. Clouds are moving with train". Couple was watching the young man in embarrassingly.

Now its start raining and some of water drops touches the young man's hand. He filled with joy and he closed the eyes. He shouted again," Papa it's raining, water is touching me, see papa".

Couple couldn't help themselves and ask the old man. "Why don't you visit the Doctor and get treatment for your son."

Old man said, "Yes, We are coming from the hospital as Today only my son got his eye sight for first time in his life."

Moral  of this story is -"Don't draw conclusions until you know all the facts". So always wait to collect the facts. Before drawing a conclusion discuss with the relevant group. Such a decision would bring positive outcome most of the time, if executed properly.

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